Today the kids in Grade 6 were at the Jaffa Environmental Education Centre for a day of wilderness structure-building, orienteering and fire-starting. I wanted to see them again so I showed up in the afternoon. Apart from my coughing, I had fun – it’s always great to talk to 11-year-olds. A few kids hugged me. One boy asked permission first and then came close. Very sweet.
We headed back to the school in time to catch the buses home and that same boy came up to me with a gift-wrapped present. Inside were yummy cookies and waffles plus a pair of cool blue socks, with little bow ties scattered on them. The gem, though, was the card.
I had met the mom just before I left for Senegal, at the school’s Christmas concert. We got talking. I told her about my wife Jody and the book I’d written about her, and mom wanted a copy. I got one from my car Scarlet and signed it for her. Little did I know …
“Jenny” lost her dad six months ago and misses him so very much. Jody’s book helped her heal. Wow. That makes me feel so good …to think that my dear wife contributes to others’ lives after her death. Thank you, Jodiette. You sure contributed to mine.
Jenny wrote: “You were part of my journey and choosing happy.” Wow again. Thank you, Jenny.
Towards the end of her card, Jenny mentioned Theodore Roosevelt’s “The Man in the Arena” speech in 1910. He’s a former President of the United States. Here’s what he had to say:
It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.
And then … “I think you’re an arena man too!”
When people praise me, I’ve learned to simply say “Thank you” from my heart. I know that life is a mysterious mixture of praise and blame, gain and loss, pleasure and pain, and that these experiences touch us all. Attaching myself to praise doesn’t work. Acknowledging my good points does.
I do believe that I am:
Actually in the arena
Marred by dust and sweat and blood
Someone who strives valiantly, who errs, who comes short again and again
Someone who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions
Someone who spends himself in a worthy cause
Does this make me better than anyone else?
On we go