Dear kindhearted ones,
In four hours, I’m driving to London, then getting on a bus to Toronto, and then a plane to Cuba. I’m so excited! And Jody’s going with me.
I remember my dear wife in many ways. One of my favorites is reading what she has written. The human being, in all her glory and pain, shines from the page. Here are some snippets that I hope you’ll enjoy:
On June 25, 2014, we celebrated our 26th anniversary:
I love you completely, without reservation, and my heart sings with happiness when you are with me.
And to a dear friend in April, 2014:
I hope you enjoy this pouch that was made to help you carry both jewelry, money and important papers when you are travelling … I hope you find it extremely useful.
We love you dearly,
Jody and Bruce
In the midst of great sickness:
I don’t want to be alone.
(To Bruce) Fuzz top
Oh, Bruce. I’m so glad you’re here.
Bruce: May I go outside and get the paper first?
Jody: No. You have to sit here and smile … Of course you can get the paper.
A letter to herself at the end of a meditation course:
I need to pay attention to ME! Everything else will naturally get better … I am naturally a happy person … I don’t have to get sucked into the situation or stay that way for long. I do have the ability to create distance from the issues.
Bruce: Hello, loved wife.
Jody: Hello, loved husband. I love you so dearly.
Bruce: I wish we’d had kids.
Jody: I’m sorry that we didn’t.
Bruce: You would have been a good mother.
Jody: You would have been a fantastic father.
And as Jody got weaker:
Jody: I need to have somebody help blow my nose.
Bruce: Pick me.
A letter to her grandmother on October 31, 2014 shows the soul beyond the limitations of time:
It’s been a long time. I realize that it’s been a long time since we’ve said hello so saying goodbye seems like a funny thing to do.
A couple of weeks before Jody died:
I’m more than happy to comply with your wishes, kind sir.
Two days after Jody died:
I am with you, husband, in a way you can’t comprehend from your side.
Lovely phrases all. I’m so glad that I get to hold onto many of Jody’s words. And I’m sure we’ll talk lots in Cuba.
On Saturday, December 6, 2014, there’ll be an announcement about Jody’s Celebration of Life in the London Free Press and in the St. Thomas Times-Journal. It will be held at 11:00 am on Saturday, January 31, 2015 at Bellamere Winery in London. I thought long and hard about whether to include in the ad something funny Jody said to me. Well, heck, it’s a celebration isn’t it? So the funny stuff now sits there, waiting for your laughter on Saturday morning. I’ll be on the beach at the time, reading The Book Thief. I dearly hope that I’ll see you in January. Jody deserves a big crowd.
I love you all,