Just a few days ago, I threw an ice cream cone into the air. And now I am overwhelmingly sad. I ache for my Jodiette.
Last night, I watched a movie called “Unfinished Song”. It’s the story of a vibrant woman named Marion who dies of cancer. So close to home. I saw her husband Arthur cradling her, bringing her food, caring deeply for his beloved … and it was Jody and me.
For supper, I ate some fetuccini alfredo that was past due, and nausea crept up on me. As Arthur sang a song to his dear one near the end of the film, I cried and cried. And felt like I was going to throw up. Sorrow and nausea showered down upon me and I was deeply depressed. Later, sleep wouldn’t come. Thinking that I was going to vomit on the bed, I put my housecoat on, a coat and toque, and walked down the driveway. I hoped that the cool air would lift the physical pain, and it did help a bit. I was able to sleep some.
I had made arrangements to go for a walk with my neighbours Linda and Tony this morning. I went over but they were busy preparing a holiday meal. Time had dribbled away for them and now they were in deadline mode. I talked, I cried, I ached. No joy in Mudville. And little ability to talk to Jody and to hear her love. Such desolation. Feeling so alone.
Tony and Linda didn’t know what to say and neither did I. I wept for Jody. I told them about Cuba. We talked about going for a walk tonight after they return from their dinner. I don’t want my grief and sickness to intrude upon their evening. But I don’t want to be alone. Oh, how I wish I could talk to Jody right now, but it’s so hard. My stomach is overwhelming my soul.
These are the moments when I need to be kind to whomever comes my way. It’s easy to be kind when the world is rolling along tickety boo. But now? How amazing it would be. I need to reach out to my fellow man, no matter how I feel. I need to do it now.
And so I write a few e-mails to friends. They deserve my best.