“What Now?” is the question, for the conference participants, and for me.
I want to reach people with my ideas and experiences. For three years, I’ve told myself that WordPress is a good way to do that, but now I wonder. On an average day, it appears that only five people read my posts. But I have maybe 100 followers and I’m guessing that any views from them don’t count in the stats. I don’t know if that’s true.
Jody loved being on Facebook but it never drew me. I sensed that the posts of many folks focused on “What I did today”, and I didn’t want to do that. But now, after watching hours of conference sessions, I’m thinking about opening a Facebook page, to see if my grappling with big issues and experiences could reach a wider audience. We’ll see what energy is behind that thought, and whether there’s enough oomph for me to begin.
It was the last day of the conference and there was no shortage of intriguing comments from the presenters:
“Ask yourself: ‘Since I arrived at the conference, has anything shifted in me?’ Shifts that are experiential and embodied, not just centered in your mind. Are you moved to do and say new things? When you share about this, bring your life force to it. Don’t tell us your shift in a monotone way. The energy of your voice shifts things.”
I’ve long been fascinated with the human voice as an instrument of change. I had a theory once that the greater the processing of oxygen, the greater the consciousness that’s revealed. So running, cycling, talking with passion, singing … they feel like ways to reach Spirit. But then again, I don’t think it’s just about speech volume. What if I could be totally present with each person I talk to? What if a current of energy was transmitted to the other person whether I’m whispering or belting out the bass part of “O Come All Ye Faithful”? More experiments needed.
“What’s alive for me at this point in my practice? What matters to me is two things:
1. The cultivation of a reliable, trustworthy community, people who understand that evolution is beautiful but not necessarily pretty. It makes a difference to have a tribe.
2. The transfer of what I’ve learned to a younger generation, acknowledging that they’re creating new things, that they come in with another set of capacities.” [The presenter is around 60.]
I’ve decided to rejoin the meditation group that meets weekly in London, Ontario. A sangha. I need to talk to people who are not brand new to what I’m experiencing. As for the second point, I’ll soon be 69. I need to find ways to share my values and experiences. I want there to be some remembrance of Bruce when I die (even if the solidity of Bruce is a total fiction!)
“I’m no longer engaged in those questions.”
And it’s okay if past passions have morphed into pleasant memories, with no current juice coursing through my spiritual veins. I used to be fanatical about playing beautiful golf courses on my computer. I bought lots of them. I loved the lay of the land, and still do. But now, I don’t want to play, and that’s just fine.
“When you think about the following domains, what arises? What questions do you feel pulsing from the inside that are the most urgent and beautiful? What wants to live through you? What would you die for?
1. My purpose on the planet
2. Intimate relationships
3. Spiritual practice
4. My stage of life”
I’m here to love people and make them laugh. I deeply miss being in an intimate relationship, and I realize that I may, or may not, have one again. With the Dalai Lama, I say that my spiritual practice is kindness. And coming up on 69? Don’t waste time. Don’t miss the stunning moments of life. Give. Be sacred in each moment – to others and to me.
“Stand up whenever one of these statements is true for you. Pause and be seen. See who’s standing with you. See who’s sitting down. No judgments. Then sit down. If you’re sitting, witness those standing and hold the truth that the statement is not resonant for you.
1. I feel connected to my deep life purpose
2. I’m still searching for my deep life purpose
3. Right now, in my current life stage, I am preferencing autonomy (i.e. self-development, caring for myself first)
4. In my current life stage, I am preferencing being with others
5. Right now, in my current life stage, I am contemplating mortality on a regular basis
6. In my current life stage, I am at ease
7. In my current life stage, I am not at ease”
How lovely. No one right. No one wrong. Just the truth.
Thank you, Integral Life, for creating this forum. Folks in Colorado. Folks on their computers across the world. And folks who know nothing about what’s happened in a Denver hotel ballroom over the last four days.