Jody and I bought our home near Union, Ontario in 1994. For twenty years, it was our sanctuary, our place of intimacy and repose. But gradually since Jody died in November, 2014, home became house. For most of the last six weeks, I’ve looked at many of our shared objects, asking myself whether they still sing. Most of them don’t and so have found their way to an auction company, a donation centre or the dump.
Jody’s spirit is everywhere within 6265 Bostwick Road, especially the kitchen, where she was the master of gourmet meals. And so it’s time for me to move on. And my sweet wife is coming along for the ride.
Last Friday, I put our home on the market. How surreal to see the “For Sale” sign out by the road. Twenty-two years ago, Jodiette and I posed for a photo near that spot, just after signing the deal. In two months, we’d be resident on “the road that goes to Union”. I remember our first night, eating pizza on our furniture-less living room floor. The seller, Jim Johnston, told our realtor that he picked us because he wanted to give his home to “that nice young couple”.
Last night, another nice young couple made an offer which I accepted. I hope they have kids someday and that their family experiences great happiness on Bostwick. In the offer, they asked for the beautiful reddish wood sleigh bed that Jody and I shared. My first reaction was “No way!” but half an hour later there was another letting go. Our bed was the centre of our intimate life – sex yes, but also thousands of nighttime cuddles. May thousands more take place in its embrace. I’ll choose a new bedframe and wait for the next love of my life to appear. She’ll be here next week, next year or next lifetime. I’m a patient soul.
Goodbye Bostwick (on August 24). Hello Robin Ridge Drive. Home again.