If you can drive safely while kissing someone
you’re simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves
I think Albert was on to something here, whether it’s about romance or doing your taxes. We tend not to go all out, not to throw ourselves into an act with the total oomph it deserves. But what does it mean to give 100% in the moment, rather than the tepid 50% we often manage to express?
I’m partial to kissing. Let’s go there:
1. Harder … More pressure: I don’t think so. The vacuum action doesn’t bring forth intimacy
2. Faster: No, it’s not a race to the finish line
3. Wetter: Sounds good but it ain’t necessarily so. Slobberiness can get in the way of the connection
4. Longer: Now this is promising. I wrote a few days ago about a couple’s wondrously extended kiss in an airport
We’re in the wrong territory here. It’s not about technique, physical stamina, or the drive to make love. Those are fine but actually the eyes know what real kissing is. It’s the communion that lives when two people enter the same sacred reality. The 50% approach won’t do – a brush of the lips on the way out the door, a peck on the cheek while you check your texts. No. Going into each other’s eyes please, and all the way through to where the loved one’s essence lies. That’ll do nicely.
When we drive, our hands are on the wheel
When we kiss, our hearts are in each other’s hands