During the Evolutionary Collective seminar on the weekend, I got to experience some attitudes which allow us to make a powerful difference in the world.
One participant shared that she often felt like she was squeezed between the luggage on a bus. Our leader countered that we need to take a seat on the bus. Hmm. So … I’m just as important as anyone else. I belong. I have a part to play. I deserve to be here. Who cares if someone else has more life experience, more smarts, a more open heart? Not important. What is crucial is that we talk to each other and allow ourselves to influence each other.
I’m no better than other passengers and no worse. In fact, the whole comparison business doesn’t serve anyone. Together we can flow towards the future, sharing our connection while also allowing each person’s uniqueness to blossom.
At a social gathering full of adults and kids, a four-year-old girl came to the centre of the action and said “Everyone stand up.” They did. “Now hold hands.” They did. It wasn’t a bunch of grownups humoring a kid. It was a natural response to the power of another human being, who just happened to be very young. Our age, gender, personality and knowledge don’t matter. We get to throw ourselves out into the world and impact others. We each have the juice inside to to be forthright and assertive. Now, can we bring that to the outside?
Let’s say you have a negative pattern that keeps repeating. You’re awfully tired of it. What’s possible is to quietly say “No. I’m not doing that anymore.” A determination without fanfare. A declaration. I realize that some deep traumas (such as the ones which reside in me) need a more extensive strategy but others are perfectly susceptible to a sudden stop. “I don’t like what caffeine does to me. I don’t like what aspartame does to me. That’s it. No more caffeinated coffee or tea. No more Diet Coke.” So there.
I don’t have to shut myself down. I don’t have to settle down. I can be a very big Bruce, even if some folks say that’s too big. And I can find someone to share my life who won’t back away when I’m being powerful. She won’t run away. Instead, she’ll beckon me closer. “Give me all you’ve got. I want all of you.” Sounds pretty rare, both in the giving and the receiving, but why not? Why should I tone myself down in my passion and commitment because someone might get uncomfortable? Well … I shouldn’t. The planet needs all of us to be at the top of our game – to be willing to express, to give, to disrupt the status quo. If not us, then who?
Stand up straight
Look the world in the eye