I went to a movie yesterday at the Hyland Cinema in London. It’s such a cozy place and shows real stories with real people. I was settling into the Coming Attractions. And then …
“We can hear you talking from over here!”
The voice from behind was female and snarly, and was aimed at someone on the far side of the theatre. I forgot about the upcoming movie.
What washed over me was sadness. It was such a violent outburst. And I don’t want any violence in my life. But nor do I want to hear chatting moviegoers while I’m sinking into the film.
One choice is whether to speak up when something’s not right. I say yes. Suppressing myself surely withers my internal organs along with my psyche. I’ve spent too much time in my life not saying what’s true for me.
But how to do it? I fear confrontations. In this situation, I would have left the theatre and asked an employee to speak to the yapper. Once, at a concert, I said “Please don’t talk while the singer is performing” to the people beside me, and that felt good. Plus nobody hit me.
If I’m to continue making a difference in this world, I need all of me available for the next person I meet. Shutting myself down won’t get the job done. So I will express, with caring and without antagonism.