During the year that Jody was ill and dying, her head started tilting more and more to one side as she lay in bed. How strange that I can’t remember which side it was. But I know I did my darndest to straighten her head some, so she could eat and drink. We had a tiny pillow to support her jaw. I would stand behind my dear one, place a hand on either side of her head, and lift … as gently as I could. Often this hurt Jodiette, and I withered in response. Sometimes, though, all went well. I paused as I felt the weight of my wife’s head in my hands. Those moments were magical. Such a precious object to be holding. A timeless moment. And such a responsibility.
When I think of expressing love towards someone’s head, I think of kissing first of all … surely one of the great pleasures in life. Kissing on the lips is such an expression of romantic love. But kissing on the cheek is sweet as well, whether or not there’s romance in the air. Such a pure thing.
Once in awhile, I’ve been moved to brush a fellow human’s cheek with the outside of my first two fingers. Oh my. Especially to do this in silence, with eye contact. “You are beloved to me,” so says my hand. Words couldn’t add to the intimacy.
And then, of course, there’s looking deep into the eyes of another. Not in the general vicinity of their eyes, but way down into the pupils. Unimaginable treasures reside in there, especially if we’re willing to hold that gaze with our companion. Awe emerges.
I’m glad we all have heads. They’re lovely receivers of delight.