Long ago I was in a leadership program of an organization called est.  A weekend in Vancouver, Canada was scheduled for us participants.  And amongst our homework was this:

Clean your fridge

So odd, I thought.  Except it wasn’t.  If I was to fully engage in the training, I needed the rest of my life to work.

Actually, if I want my energy to be focused on what’s truly important to me – loving people – I need to rid myself of anything that draws that energy away.

There have been three people in my life who I have “unfinished business” with.  Things unsaid and undone.  This morning I told the truth to each of them.  I don’t know how they’ll respond, and their choices will have an impact on me.  The main thing, though, is what I put out there into the world.

Then there are the realms of life where I’ve stopped doing something.  Like continuing to learn Dutch.  And singing at open mic sessions.  I will begin again.

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The other side of things is stuff I do that’s “extra” … not valuable for my well-being.  Essentially a waste of time.  Like watching action movies on Netflix where a whole bunch of people are getting killed while the hero does his or her heroic things.  Movies with little sense of human connection.  It’s a “something to do” that wears away my soul.

Or … reading the articles on the CNN app.  Being fascinated and horrified with the latest rising of Mr. Trump.  “Give me all the details, please.”  No.

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This Bruce hereby commits to becoming leaner and kinder

And that kindness needs to waft over me too